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      14. If a lady is traveling with a gentleman, simply as a friend, she should place the amount of her expenses in his hands, or insist on paying the bills herself.

      15. Never offer a lady costly gifts unless you are engaged to her, for it looks as if you were trying to purchase her good-will; and when you make a present to a lady use no ceremony whatever.

      16. Never carry on a private conversation in company. If secrecy is necessary, withdraw from the company.

      17. Never sit with your back to another without asking to be excused.

      18. It is as unbecoming for a gentleman to sit with legs crossed as it is for a lady.

      19. Never thrum with your fingers, rub your hands, yawn or sigh aloud in company.

      20. Loud laughter, loud talking, or other boisterous manifestations should be checked in the society of others, especially on the street and in public places.

      [pg 54, ToC]

      21. When you are asked to sing or play in company, do so without being urged, or refuse in a way that shall be final; and when music is being rendered in company, show politeness to the musician by giving attention. It is very impolite to keep up a conversation. If you do not enjoy the music keep silent.

      22. Contentions, contradictions, etc. in society should be carefully avoided.

      23. Pulling out your watch in company, unless asked the time of day, is a mark of the demi-bred. It looks as if you were tired of the company and the time dragged heavily.

      24. You should never decline to be introduced to any one or all of the guests present at a party to which you have been invited.

      25. A gentleman who escorts a lady to a party, or who has a lady placed under his care, is under particular obligations to attend to her wants and see that she has proper attention. He should introduce her to others, and endeavor to make the evening pleasant. He should escort her to the supper table and provide for her wants.

      26. To take small children or dogs with you on a visit of ceremony is altogether vulgar, though in visiting familiar friends, children are not objectionable.

      Children Should be taught early the lessons of Propriety and Good Manners.

       [pg 55, ToC]

       AN EGYPTIAN BRIDE'S WEDDING OUTFIT

       [pg 56, ToC]

       ETIQUETTE OF CALLS

ETIQUETTE OF CALLS.

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      In the matter of making calls it is the correct thing:

      For the caller who arrived first to leave first.

      To return a first call within a week and in person.

      To call promptly and in person after a first invitation.

      For the mother or chaperon to invite a gentleman to call.

      To call within a week after any entertainment to which one has been invited.

      You should call upon an acquaintance who has recently returned from a prolonged absence.

      It as proper to make the first call upon people in a higher social position, if one is asked to do so.

      It is proper to call, after an engagement has been announced, or a marriage has taken place, in the family.

      For the older residents in the city or street to call upon the newcomers to their neighborhood is a long recognized custom.

      It is proper, after a removal from one part of the city to another, to send out cards with one's new address upon them.

      To ascertain what are the prescribed hours for calling in the place where one is living, or making a visit, and to adhere to those hours is a duty that must not be overlooked.

      A gentleman should ask for the lady of the house as well as the young ladies, and leave cards for her as well as for the head of the family.

      [pg 57, ToC]

ETIQUETTE IN YOUR SPEECH.

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      Don't say Miss or Mister without the person's name.

      Don't say pants for trousers.

      Don't say gents for gentlemen.

      Don't say female for woman.

      Don't say elegant to mean everything that pleases you.

      Don't say genteel for well-bred.

      Don't say ain't for isn't.

      Don't say I done it for I did it.

      Don't say he is older than me; say older than I.

      Don't say she does not see any; say she does not see at all.

      Don't say not as I know; say not that I know.

      Don't say he calculates to get off; say he expects to get off.

      Don't say he don't; say he doesn't.

      Don't say she is some better; say she is somewhat better.

      Don't say where are you stopping? say where are you staying?

      Don't say you was; say you were.

      Don't say I say, says I, but simply say I said.

      Don't sign your letters yours etc., but yours truly.

      Don't say lay for lie; lay expresses action; lie expresses rest.

      Don't say them bonnets; say those bonnets.

      Don't say party for person.

      Don't say it looks beautifully, but say it looks beautiful.

      [pg 58, ToC]

      Don't say feller, winder, to-morrer, for fellow, window, to-morrow.

      Don't use slangy words; they are vulgar.

      Don't use profane words; they are sinful and foolish.

      Don't say it was her, when you mean it was she.

      Don't say not at once for at once.

      Don't say he gave me a recommend, but say he gave me a recommendation.

      Don't say the two first for the first two.

      Don't say he learnt me French; say he taught me French.

      Don't say lit the fire; say lighted the fire.

      Don't say the man which you saw; say the man whom you saw.

      Don't say who done it; say who did it

      Don't say if I was rich I would buy a carriage; say if I were rich.

      Don't say if I am not mistaken you are in the wrong; say if I mistake not.

      Don't say who may you be; say who are you?

      Don't

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