The Baby Sleep Book: How to help your baby to sleep and have a restful night - Martha Sears

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routine to get to sleep, some enjoy novelty. And even your best transitioning tips may not work when baby enters a new stage of development. You need a box full of sleep strategies to see you through the first year or two of your baby’s life. Keep trying new things.

      Your attitude. Consider winding-down routines as an opportunity to spend quality time with your child. Enjoy this peaceful time together. Don’t look at your watch. Don’t think about everything else you have to do. Your baby will pick up on your relaxed attitude and probably go to sleep more easily.

       Trial Period

      During this first week or two you will be trying to work out what primary sleep associations work for your baby.

      For newborns and younger babies, you will be trying to find one (or maybe two) things that you can depend on to get your baby off to sleep. This may turn out to be feeding, rocking or walking.

      For older infants and those who already have a strong primary sleep association (in other words, something you can count on to nearly always turn on the sleep switch), you will be trying to find one or two new primary sleep associations either because the old ones are no longer working for you or because you want your baby to be able to fall asleep in other ways. Your baby will probably protest or fight this change and want you to go back to the tried-and-true. Keep trying different ideas, as long as you are comfortable. Use secondary sleep associations, such as music or motion, along with whatever primary sleep association you are trying to establish. Write down your observations, to help you remember what works.

      What is your baby’s favourite sleep-association combo? _______________________________

      Babies – and parents – enjoy a more restful night if their sleep is not cut short. As you will learn in chapter 3, babies are wired to wake up during the night, and they usually need a parent’s help to settle back into sleep. As babies mature, so do their sleep patterns, so that they are able to sleep longer stretches and resettle themselves. When this blissful time happens varies greatly from baby to baby. While you can’t force your baby to sleep through the night, you can provide conditions that will help your child attain sleep maturity to sleep longer stretches.

      Why do babies wake up so much? Answer: they’re babies! In chapter 3 and chapter 11 we’ll discuss the many developmental, medical, and physical reasons babies wake up. Keeping in mind that breastfeeding babies under one year typically need to feed twice a night, and over a year sometimes at least once, here are some ideas for teaching babies how to go back to sleep.

      Change where baby sleeps. In step one you chose where you want baby to sleep. Hopefully it is working for both of you. However, the bed that baby starts the night in may not necessarily be the same bed she wakes up in each morning. Consider this: is your baby waking during the night because she is alone in another room and wants to be closer to you? If you think this may be the case, try moving baby closer to you (see “Sleeping in your room, but not in your bed”, or “Sleeping with baby in your bed”) at the first night waking. Or is baby already in your bed, and waking up because you are right there? If so, try moving baby further away from you when you come to bed or at the first night waking.

      When he made his first peep, we quickly issued reminders, such as: “Shhhh … sleepy-sleepy.” We let him know that it wasn’t time to get up yet.

      Lay on hands. When baby stirs, gently lay hands on her without picking her up. Stay with her and continue laying on a comforting hand as you say or sing your favourite sleep cues, such as “night-night”, “sleepy-sleepy” … Stay by her bedside until she falls asleep. If she starts to wake up right away or awakens during the night, again lay on hands and give her your “sleepy-sleepy” sleep cue. Hopefully this will be enough to soothe her back to sleep. If she just can’t fall asleep, pick her up and walk around the bedroom a while holding her in a sleep-inducing position, such as the neck nestle (see this technique, page), or sit in a rocking chair or recliner and try to get her back to sleep.

      Leave a little bit of mother behind. To help a baby stay asleep when you are not there, have something nearby that smells like you. This might be a breast pad, which has the odour of your milk, or an item of your clothing. Your bed will naturally have your scent. You can also sleep with baby’s cot or cradle sheets for a night (use them for a pillow case), and then place them on baby’s mattress. Your scent should last for a few days.

       I feed and wear my baby a lot during the day. He actually sleeps better if I take off the shirt that I have worn all day and cover him with it before I put the blanket on him at night.

      Offer a thumb or a dummy. Pacifier, the American name for dummy, literally means “peacemaker”. Giving baby something to suck on will often bring peace to both baby and parents. You can actually help your baby learn to suck his thumb. Thumbs are handier than dummies. They are warm, soft, and easily available. They don’t fall on the floor; they are just the right size for baby’s mouth. They don’t obstruct the nose or need to be clipped on with a cord. Babies feel more in control of a thumb.

      As you’re putting baby down to sleep, ease her thumb into her mouth, and do this again each time she wakes up. This way she learns to associate sucking her thumb with going to sleep – and back to sleep. If baby continues to suck but wakes up anyway, she’s probably hungry and needs you, and not just a milk-less thumb. During a check-up when I need tiny babies to be quiet so that I can listen to their hearts, I sometimes insert their thumb in their mouth. Sometimes I notice mothers raise their eyebrows as if they didn’t realize they could do this. Babies in the womb suck their thumbs. In the early months, babies who can’t quite find their thumbs will suck on their wrists, or even forearms. They are born with their own natural pacifier. Take advantage of it. And don’t overuse artificial pacifiers. If when baby cries you find yourself by reflex reaching for the dummy instead of baby, remember our advice: “use it, don’t abuse it, and quickly try to lose it”.

      Some parents worry that purposely teaching baby to suck his thumb will lead to a long-term habit which will be hard to break (you can’t just throw the thumb away like you can the dummy). While this can happen, if it gets you a better night’s sleep for now it’s probably worth it.

      Try both the quick and the delayed response. Should you come running as soon as you hear your baby awaken in the night? Or should you hold off and see if baby goes back to sleep? Again, it’s your decision. Some parents find it easier if they quickly get to baby and help baby back to sleep before the cries escalate and baby gets revved up. If you wait too long,

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