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Faithful Sexuality. Gary L. Grafwallner
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Автор произведения Gary L. Grafwallner
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Издательство Ingram
One of the temptations in being married to a non-Christian, according to Sarah, is to avoid making waves. “You try not to bring up the subject of God or the church or the Bible or prayer or giving money.”
I’ve watched many people tiptoe around spiritual things with a non-believing spouse. The danger I see in being quiet about your beliefs is you may end up compromising your own relationship with God but also your spouse or any children. If we lie to keep the peace at home, then everybody loses. God wants to be our first love, not just an equal to our spouse, children, partner, or parents.
I know a single woman who has made a commitment to her boyfriend. He is capable, intelligent, and likable. He is very clear about not sharing her belief in God. Now, it doesn’t mean he won’t change, but she cannot assume that. The belief that God was in Jesus is basic to who she is. I can see potential problems down the road if they decide to marry or have children. Jesus was very clear that loyalty to him and the Father takes precedence over loyalty to our family. One of the wrinkles in this scenario is that the woman, like Sarah, is not clear in her own mind about how important she wants God to be in her life.
I grew up in a household where my own father was not a practicing Christian, yet my mother was an active church member. Early on I became aware of my mother’s frustration and the pain and disappointment a spiritually divided household can cause. Although my mother taught us to be Christians, my father’s lack of involvement undermined her example.
One summer I was hiking in Scotland with a man close to sixty. Ken said, “My wife is not a Christian, but I hope she will become one someday. My daughters are not Christians either, although they’re both spiritual. They’re young and need a little hardship in their lives before they’ll feel a need to turn to God. My wife, on the other hand, has always been a loner. She suffers from low self-esteem. I have asked a few trusted friends to pray for her, but not publicly.” Can you hear the ache, the yearning, the hope that perhaps one day we who share human love will share divine love before one of us dies? When a couple shares not only their lives but God’s life, it can open up sharing more deeply in many areas.
Questions for Reflection
• If you are married to “a good person” who is not Christian, how has their lack of faith or a different belief from your own beliefs impacted the marriage?
• Is there someone who might pray for them or engage them in conversation and invite them to consider the words and life of Jesus?
Prayer
• Maker of all, help me to not get in the way of your efforts to reach my beloved nonbeliever but to be a loving and truthful channel of your grace, along with others, to them. Amen.
Single, Sexual, and Whole
A professional woman who lives in another state usually stops for an overnight stay at our house on her way to visit her parents in British Columbia. She is in her forties, a practicing Christian who has never married. She has been very involved in her local congregation and its ministry in the community. This year during her visit I inquired if I could ask her a personal question based on our long years of friendship. “Sure,” she replied.
“How do you deal with your sexual needs as a single Christian woman?”
She blushed and I assured her she could pass on the question. Then she braced herself and said the following, “I don’t date a lot. My friends help. Actually, my friends are amazing. Anyone would want them as friends. We do all sorts of things together: picnics in the park, progressive dinners, birthday parties, bike trips, backpacking trips, camping trips. Now and then we go to a play or the ballet. Sometimes we’ll visit a museum or listen to a jazz group. We go for walks at the lake. We may eat popcorn and watch a video. I enjoy my friends so much.”
“Are these friends all single?”
“No, some of them are married. Several have children, but these are usually adult outings. She continued, “I miss being married. I know some people who will marry a strange guy and those of us who know her through work or socially can’t believe it. Just to legalize having sex or own property? It’s not worth it. We’re talking about messing up my life. I like my life.”
She smiled and I said, “Thanks.” the conversation changed to another subject.
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