ТОП просматриваемых книг сайта:
How to help yourself in a difficult moment. Invitation to a new life. Vladimir S. Lavrov
Читать онлайн.Название How to help yourself in a difficult moment. Invitation to a new life
Год выпуска 0
isbn 9785449332141
Автор произведения Vladimir S. Lavrov
Жанр Руководства
Издательство Издательские решения
Accounts with life
If you are thinking about taking your life, it’s sad. Do not rush with this. Stop and think: is there really nothing good left in your life? Can not you see the grain of future happiness in your problem? Do you really want to make your loved ones suffer?
Think about the fact that any grief does not last forever. And how many joys you can lose! You could go on a trip tomorrow or a month, do drawing, music, yoga, read an amazing book, find a new love, discover the wonderful world of the cosmos, the economy or philosophy… Think, because what happened to you, for sure, in a month or the year will not seem so heavy and painful as it is now.
Do not make rash steps now. Wait a bit. Think about the state in which you leave your affairs, your work, your house… After all, for sure, there are deeds that you did not have time to complete… Complete them before you settle accounts with life… Put your papers, books and emails in order. Finish the business negotiations that have been started and give out the debts… Do house cleaning at home and give your relatives all their possessions so that it will not be wasted… In the end, write memories of your life – in the edification of your descendants. Suddenly your suffering, multiplied by your life experience, will help someone to get out of the same swamp, in which the will of fate now turned out to be you?
Do not hurry. Think three times before deciding to destroy yourself. Over time, your wounds will grow and you will rejoice in life again. If now do not make a fatal mistake.
Let go of the past
To let go is to accept what happened and not to worry about it. It is difficult to release, but necessary! Yes, your mind is afraid of change, so it tries to hold on to the past. It is easier for him to exist there, because there he already knows how to react to what is happening and does not want to retrain. But do not listen to him! Listen only to your heart!
Do not hold on to the past – release him. If someone wants to leave your life – let him go! He frees a place for someone more worthy! Of course, at first it’s always difficult. It’s hard to let go of the one you love. But if you love – let go! After all, if a person leaves you, then he is better off without you! Believe me, if he were well with you, he would not have thought of leaving you!
Now is the time to let go of the past and move on. Whatever happens, let go and move on. Do not cling to a broken past. What’s broken is broken. Agree, change, give, give, ask – all this had to be done before the relationship was broken. And now all you can do is calm down and be glad that everything has ended relatively well! No matter how blasphemous it sounds, but there is something to be glad about: first, whatever one may say, but you are alive. This is already good. Secondly, if your loved one has cheated on you, he would have cheated on you for the rest of his life. Is not it good that you broke up? Thirdly, if he treated you badly, insulted you and humiliated you, it is unlikely he would ever change. Therefore, again, is it not good that he left? Have pity on his new victim and rejoice that life has saved you from the person for whom you were unnecessary, superfluous. After all, if he had been necessary to you, he would not have cheated on you, have you? And you would not have parted for anything…
Of course, when you parted, you could experience a mental trauma, and experience pain. But now everything is in the past, everything is over. Why keep the heart hurt and ruin your life? Tell the past: “Thank you for the experience. I learned a lot, became stronger, wiser. I got a good life lesson. Dear past, thank you that you were in my life”. And release him. Do not drive it. Just let it go. Your past is your writing notebook, which you can still look at once. Do not throw it away! Just close it and open another, clean!
Yes, you can not stab the emptiness in the heart with planks… But the holy place is never empty. Certainly there will be another person who will fill the void in your heart!
Your present
Probably, after experiencing loss, you have gone through several stages of hell. It does not matter what happened – treason, parting, loss, illness, death of a loved one or something else. First you went through a misunderstanding (you did not understand what happened and all denied it, they say, “this can not be”). Then anger arose – first to the person who caused you suffering, then to the whole of humanity, and after that, at last, to yourself… And now you are still on one level of hell – have experienced the grief of loss.
Конец ознакомительного фрагмента.
Текст предоставлен ООО «ЛитРес».
Прочитайте эту книгу целиком, купив полную легальную версию на ЛитРес.
Безопасно оплатить книгу можно банковской картой Visa, MasterCard, Maestro, со счета мобильного телефона, с платежного терминала, в салоне МТС или Связной, через PayPal, WebMoney, Яндекс.Деньги, QIWI Кошелек, бонусными картами или другим удобным Вам способом.