Lose, Love, Live - Dan Moseley

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      What Others Are Saying about Lose Love Live

      If you have experienced a loss and are looking for a spiritual companion rather than a fix, then you have found an answer to prayer in Dan Moseley and this book. He speaks with the authority of a fellow pilgrim who knows a subject from the inside. My Clinical Pastoral Education students have found it an excellent resource to help them “get with” people in their grief.

      Dr. James R. Coffman

      A CPE Certified Supervisor

      Methodist Healthcare System

      Memphis, Tennessee

      Loss of a significant loved one threatens our world as we see and experience it, which can lead to serious questioning of one’s faith. Dr. Moseley deals with these questions openly and honestly in a manner intended to lead to a new life and deepening of one’s faith.

      Dr. Moseley’s integration of his years of pastoral experience and seminary teaching has resulted in a practical understanding of grieving and a gentle guide through the “valley of the shadow of death” into a new and unexpected life. Lose Love Live may be a blessing for any congregational ministry to bereaved members. Grief support groups could easily use it.

      Rev. Kenneth E. Reed, PhD

      Developer/Author of Healing through Grieving: Learning to Live Again

      In this, the most helpful book I have read about loss and grief, Moseley invites the reader to enter into his pilgrimage of living through love and loss into new life, giving pointers for one’s own pilgrimage, highlighting the role of helpful companions, emerging as a blessing for those who read it—a much needed resource for pastors, church libraries, and required reading for Stephen Ministers.

      Wayne H. Bell

      President Emeritus

      Lexington Theological Seminary

      Lose Love Live: The Spiritual Gifts of Loss and Change

      Copyright © 2010 by Dan Moseley

      All rights reserved.

      No part of this book may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission of the publisher except in brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews. For information, write Upper Room Books, 1908 Grand Avenue, Nashville, TN 37212.

      The Upper Room Web site: www.upperroom.org

      A version of this book was originally published as Living with Loss, © 2007 by Dan Moseley, by Xyzzy Press. www.xyzzypress.com.

      UPPER ROOM®, UPPER ROOM BOOKS®, and design logos are trademarks owned by The Upper Room®, a ministry of GBOD®, Nashville, Tennessee. All rights reserved.

      Unless otherwise indicated, scripture quotations are from the New Revised Standard Version Bible, copyright © 1989 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

      Cover image: Shutterstock.com

      Cover design: MTW design, Nashville, TN / www.mtwdesign.net

      Interior design: PerfecType, Nashville, TN

      First printing: 2010

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Moseley, Dan.

      Lose, love, live : the spiritual gifts of loss and change / by Dan

      Moseley.

      p. cm.

      Rev. ed. of: Living with loss.

      Includes bibliographical references (p. ).

      ISBN 978-0-8358-1043-2

      1. Consolation. 2. Loss (Psychology)—Religious aspects—Christianity. 3.

      Change (Psychology)—Religious aspects—Christianity. I. Moseley, Dan.

      Living with loss. II. Title.

      BV4905.3.M69 2011

      248.8'6—dc22 2010040996

      Printed in the United States of America

       To Deborah

       for her faithful love and encouragement

       Contents

      Acknowledgments

      Prologue

      Introduction: Life Is Fair

      1Naming the Loss

      2Feeling Pain

      3Anger

      4Remembering

       5Guilt

       6Forgiving

       7Gratitude

       8Play

       9Practice

       10Becoming New

       Epilogue: What Matters Most

       A Discovery Journal

       Notes

       Recommended Reading

       Acknowledgments

      Thanks to all who have walked with me through my life. Thanks to all those friends and family, strangers, and therapists who listened to me long enough that I woke up and discovered my life.

      I am especially grateful to my colleagues at Christian Theological Seminary in Indianapolis, who gave me a place to discover myself through sharing with students the stories that shaped my ministry and life. I am grateful to all the church people, professional and nonprofessional, who invited me to talk with them about loss and its effect on growth. I am also grateful to the groups of people who were grieving losses of children and friends who invited me to share their journey. Through their grace I discovered that I was not alone.

      I give thanks for my children, their partners, and my grandchildren for the contacts and encouraging words that kept me pursuing the discoveries that can come through shared losses.

      I am deeply and eternally gratefully to my wife, Deborah, for her confidence in me and her patient help in encouraging me to put this out for others. Living into the life you have been given is not always easy. Deborah has been a loving and grace-filled companion to me as I have discovered my new life.

       Prologue

      This book is for you if you’ve ever lost a lover, a friend, a dog, a job, a partner, a championship game, a leg, an eye, a baby, a dream, a breast, a house, a car, a business.

      It is for you if you have ever wondered what good people can do when bad things happen to them.

      It is for you if your city of residence, your job, your family structure, your school, your physical ability, your beliefs, or your worldview has ever changed.

      And it is for you if you have ever traveled to other cultures, become acquainted with strangers, had a baby, been betrayed, been abused, gotten married or divorced.

      If any of these things have happened to you, this book is for you because this is a book about discovering new life through the losses of life.

      You see, each of these events, and any other events that create a significant

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