Stop Playing Safe - Margie Warrell

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      Back in 2019, none of us could have imagined in our wildest dreams that in 2020 the world would be knocked off its axis with the cascading crisis of the COVID-19 pandemic. Yet in the midst of having to deal with challenges we never expected, much less planned for, many people discovered within themselves more courage, tenacity and resilience than they knew they had.

      None of us can know what challenges the years ahead will bring. The world is changing so fast, it's hard to imagine what it will look like two years from now, much less 20. All of which begs the question: what mindset will you adopt to navigate the uncertainty ahead? Because in the end what matters far less than the challenges you face is the mindset you bring to them.

      As uncertain as this time in human history is, one thing remains certain: only those who are willing to fling their arms wide to the full spectrum of human experience will be able to seize the opportunities that surround each of us every single day. In the end, there is no success without the possibility of failure. As Helen Keller said, ‘Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.’

       Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace.

      AMELIA EARHART

       If we do not believe within ourselves this deeply rooted feeling that there is something higher than ourselves, we shall never find the strength to evolve into something higher.

      RUDOLF STEINER

      You've read the stories. Of the accidental hero diving into a frozen river or lifting a car many times their body weight to rescue a total stranger. Of the desperate mother walking hundreds of miles under the blistering sun to seek help for her child.

      In the face of impossible odds, people have tapped into reserves of seeming superhuman power, unlocking strength, courage and steel-like determination that would otherwise have lain dormant. And often not just for their own sake, but for the sake of someone else. Sometimes even a complete stranger.

      Perhaps you've experienced such a moment in your own life where you've tapped into a deeper source of power and courage within you; perhaps that almost surprised you. Maybe you found yourself in your own ‘impossible’ predicament, but resolved that nothing was going to stop you.

      Your task was compelling. Your focus lasered. Your potential ignited.

      Purpose does that. It's like the energy of light focused through a magnifying glass. While diffused, unfocused light has little use and less power, when its energy is concentrated — as through a magnifying glass — that same light can set fire to paper.

      Focus its energy even more, as with a laser beam, and its power is magnified enough to cut through steel.

       A clear and compelling sense of purpose enables you to harness the resources within you to cut through the barriers around you and accomplish the extraordinary. Purpose focuses your energy — physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual — towards an end goal that compels you out of your comfort zone and pushes you forward regardless of the obstacles.

      Of course, few people feel that burning fire in their belly every day of their lives. But it is imperative to connect to what ignites that inner spark within us if we want to take our lives to the next level and forge a more rewarding future than what we might otherwise be on track to do.

      Given we are wealthier today than at any point in human history, there is clearly a marked difference between ‘well off' and ‘wellbeing'. Unlike animals, which are driven simply to survive, we humans crave more from life than mere survival. Without an answer to the question ‘Survival for the sake of what?', we can quickly fall into disillusionment and distraction and spend our precious years living with a lingering sense of despair. Adam Grant described this state of languishing as ‘the neglected middle child of mental health’ — the void between depression and flourishing. The kind of living that isn’t fully living.

      You are capable of achieving inspiring things and living a deeply rewarding life that lights you up and elevates all around you. Yet the instinctive desire for safety — wired into the back recesses of your brain from our hunter-gatherer days — will always pull hard against, well, your desire for pretty much anything else. Let's face it, it's far easier to stick on your current path than to put yourself ‘out there’ and risk making a royal fool of yourself — at least in the short term.

      Our brains are hard-wired to avoid risk. We have an inbuilt antenna on constant alert for potential threats that might disrupt our status quo (even if it's a miserable status quo). It's why we're still here and many species that roamed the African plains 100 000 years ago are not. But we're not just talking physical safety. We're talking emotional safety too. Embedded into our psychological DNA is a deep, instinctive desire to avoid social rejection or humiliation and steer well clear of situations that might dint our pride or wound our ego. Our ego is as thirsty as it is fragile.

      It's why so many people spend so much of their lives not taking the very actions that would change what they don't like about their lives. Why they stay in jobs they hate or in relationships that leave them lonely. It's also why people in leadership roles often make over-cautious decisions and instead act to shore up their power and protect their pride. I'm sure you've witnessed this as often as I have.

      It's also why, before we move any further into this book, it's important for you to identify what you care about more than protecting your ego or your short-term comfort. If you can't do that, you'll never risk it.

      That is, why should you bother pursuing challenges that stretch you? Why stick your neck out, have that brave conversation or make that big ask? Why risk losing the comfortable familiarity of your life right now?

      To answer this question, you need to reflect not just on what you want in your career–business–life, but who you want to become by what you do each day.

       In today’s superficial selfie culture, where so many get sucked into a daily wrestling match with their fear of being left out or left behind, connecting to a deeper purpose that transcends the trivial and temporary has become ‘mission critical’. Only when we connect to a cause that transcends our ego’s need for status can we evolve to something higher.

      THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS A LIFE OF PURPOSE — WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO STAND FOR?

      Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, the only member of his family to survive the Nazi concentration camps, devoted his life to understanding man's need for meaning and the power of purpose.

      Frankl bore witness not only to the murder of his extended family, but to the death of thousands of men who were unable to survive the barbaric conditions in which they found themselves. However, he also saw men whose resolve to live enabled them to fight off despair, defy death and survive long enough to bear witness to the brutality and deprivation forced upon them.

      His experiences in World War II and thereafter led him to believe that the power of the human spirit can only be fully unleashed when our purpose for living transcends merely surviving.

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