Anxiety For Dummies - Laura L. Smith

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immune system attacks certain types of its own cells. Anxiety, poor concentration, irritability, headaches, irregular heartbeat, impaired memory Mitral valve prolapse The mitral valve of the heart fails to close properly, allowing blood to flow back into the left atrium. Often confused with panic attacks in making the diagnosis. Palpitations, shortness of breath, fatigue, chest pain, difficulty breathing Heart disease (including arrhythmias and tachycardia) Conditions that involve narrowed or blocked blood vessels, problems with muscle, valves, or rhythm Shortness of breath, noticeable changes in rhythm or skipped beats, chest tightness or pain Chronic lung conditions (e.g., COPD, asthma) Irritation or damage to the lungs Shortness of breath, tightness in the chest, feelings of not getting enough air, panic Ménière’s syndrome An inner ear disorder that includes vertigo, loss of hearing, and ringing or other noises in the ear. Vertigo that includes abnormal sensations associated with movement, dizziness, nausea, vomiting, and sweating
When you notice new signs of anxiety, ponder what changes you’ve made in your life. Have you started a new medication? Is something unusually stressful going on? How is your health? Have you made major changes to your diet or exercise routines? Answers to these questions may give you clues as to what’s causing your uptick in anxiety. But, it’s never a bad idea to check out these symptoms with your primary healthcare provider to play it safe.

      Clearing the Roadblocks to Change

      IN THIS CHAPTER

      

Finding out where your anxiety comes from

      

Looking at resistance

      

Watching worries ebb and flow

      

Getting the right help

      We’re guessing if you’re reading this book, you have some interest in the topic of anxiety, and maybe you or someone you care about struggles with the problem. You’ve come to the right place. This book gives you strategies that help people manage their anxiety. However, you should know that sometimes people start on the path to change with the best intentions, but as they move along, they suddenly encounter icy conditions, lose traction, spin their wheels, and slide off the road.

      This chapter gives you ways to throw salt and sand on the ice and keep moving forward. First, we explain where anxiety comes from. When you understand the origins of anxiety, you can move from self-blame to self-acceptance, thus allowing yourself to direct your energy away from self-abuse and toward more productive activities. Next, we show you the other big barriers that block the way to change. We give you effective strategies to keep you safely on the road to overcoming anxiety. And finally, if you need some outside support, we give you suggestions on how to find professional help.

      Anxiety doesn’t come out of nowhere; rather, it typically stems from some combination of three major contributing factors. The primary villains underlying anxiety are

       Genetics: Your biological inheritance

       Parenting: The way that you were raised

       Anxiety-arousing experiences: Unpredictable, upsetting, or scary events

      Studies show that of those people who experience unanticipated traumas or unpredictable events, only a minority end up with severe anxiety. That’s because anxiety stems from a combination of causes. So, someone with resilient genes may experience bad parenting and a series of anxiety-arousing events yet not suffer from serious bouts of anxiety later on. Someone else with less resilient genes could develop serious problems with anxiety. Furthermore, someone with anxiety-prone genes could have a great childhood and relatively few anxiety-arousing events and live a life without significant problems with anxiety.

      

Everyone experiences some anxiety from time to time. It’s only a problem when anxiety detracts from your overall well-being and quality of life.

      Some people seem almost immune to developing anxiety, yet it’s possible that life could deal them a blow that challenges their coping abilities in a way they couldn’t expect. In the story that follows, Liz shows how someone can show resilience for many years yet be tipped over the edge by a series of noxious bullying from her peers.

      Liz manages to grow up in a drug war zone without developing terribly distressing symptoms. One night, bullets whiz through her bedroom window, and one pierces her abdomen. She shows surprising resilience during her recovery. Surely, she must have some robust anti-anxiety genes and perhaps some pretty good parents in order to successfully endure such an experience. However, during high school, she is targeted by bullies for her success in her high-school band. Her antagonists post photoshopped, embarrassing pictures of her on social media. She withdraws and starts avoiding friends. Her anxiety causes her to drop out of band, and her grades slip. She just doesn’t have the resources to face this onslaught of stress.

      Thus, as Liz’s example illustrates, you can never know for certain the exact cause of anyone’s anxiety. However, if you examine someone’s childhood relationship with her parents, family history, and the various events in her life (such as relationships, accidents, disease, and so on), you can generally come up with good ideas as to why anxiety now causes problems. If you have anxiety, think about which of the causes of anxiety have contributed to your troubles.

      The benefit of identifying the source of your anxiety lies in helping you realize anxiety isn’t something you brought on yourself. Anxiety develops for a number of good, solid reasons, which we elaborate on in the following sections. The blame doesn’t belong with the person who has anxiety.

      

Guilt and self-blame only sap you of energy. They drain resources and keep your focus away from the effort required for challenging anxiety. By contrast, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance energize and even motivate your efforts (we cover these ideas later in the chapter).

      It’s in my genes!

      If you suffer from excessive worries and tension, look at the rest of your family. Of those who have an anxiety disorder, typically about a quarter of their relatives suffer along with them. So, your Uncle Ralph may not struggle with anxiety, but Aunt Melinda or your sister Charlene just might.

      Maybe you’re able to make the argument that Uncle Ralph, Aunt Melinda, and your sister Charlene all had to live with Grandma, who’d

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