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will; or maybe they will decide for themselves what is real. Like the subject of sex, most parents want to have the chance to at least give their children their input, share their values, their dos and don'ts. That won't just happen on its own; parents must make sure it happens on their terms as much as possible.

      Many parents make the mistake of not talking to their children about money. However, it is possible to make mistakes in the other direction: that of sharing too much financial information. In our research, sharing financial information that may make a parent feel better, but the child feels worse, is referred to as financial enmeshment.9 One of the incredibly injurious, but all too common, ways kids learn about money and its power to build and destroy is for parents to involve their children in money issues that are not appropriate.

      If you and your partner have unresolved issues around money, especially those in which you are not in agreement, get some help and come to an agreement—the same as you would if you had differing ideas about how to raise your children. Find agreement. If you have secrets around money, either work those out with your partner or don't tell your children about them.

      Raising financially healthy children starts with you. You need to understand your own financial psychology: your beliefs, your worries, your feelings, your hang-ups. Your personal insight is critical. Also, don't forget to think about the other people in your life and what they are teaching your children about money. You may need to politely ask their grandparents, for example, to hold off on teaching them about money, especially if you aren't happy with what they taught you.

      Remember, your children are learning about money from you, from what you say or from your silence. Take some time to think about what you want your children to know, and then think about the messages you want to pass down to them in your discussions and, more important, by your examples.

      Chapter 3: Mammoth Mindset Insights

      1 It is important to be aware of emotional impulses so that we can engage our analytical brains to think through the long-term consequences of our behaviors.

      2 Recognize that financial help can hurt.

      3 Recognize the psychological value in the need for individuals to generate their own income stream.

      4 Acknowledge the curse of unstructured free time on the mental health of the financial dependent.

      5 Help the enabler develop, implement, and stick to a plan to stop the financial aid.

      1 1. Daniel Victor, “Ethan Couch, ‘Affluenza Teen’ Who Killed 4 While Driving Drunk, Is Freed,” New York Times, April 2, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/02/us/ethan-couch-affluenza-jail.html.

      2 2. Gregory Korte, “The Rise of Rick Singer: How the Mastermind of College Admissions Scandal Built an Empire on Lies, Exploited a Broken System,” USA Today, June 24, 2019, https://www.usatoday.com/in-depth/news/nation/2019/06/19/college-admission-bribery-scandal-rick-singer-exploited-broken-system-loughlin-huffman/1133729001/.

      3 3. Associated Press, “Huffman Gets 14 Days Behind Bars in College Admissions Scam,” Fox 61 News, September 13, 2019, https://www.fox61.com/article/news/local/outreach/awareness-months/huffman-gets-14-days-behind-bars-in-college-admissions-scam/520-af5bbafe-c4c9-4f3c-93ef-4ab4dc5de5f5.

      4 4. B. Klontz, S. L. Britt, K. L. Archuleta, and T. Klontz, “Disordered Money Behaviors: Development of the Klontz Money Behavior Inventory,” Journal of Financial Therapy 3, no. 1 (2012): 2.

      5 5. B. T. Klontz and A. Canale, “When Helping Hurts: Five Recommendations for Planners with Financial-Enabling Clients,” Journal of Financial Planning 29, no. 3 (2016): 24–28.

      6 6. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, “Eight Ways to Create Flow According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi,” Positive Psychology.com, https://positivepsychology.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-father-of-flow/.

      7 7. Ron Lieber, “The Opposite of Spoiled.” New York Times, March 22, 2015, https://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/22/books/review/the-opposite-of-spoiled-by-ron-lieber.html.

      8 8. B. T. Klontz, F. Zabek, C. Taylor, A. Bivens, E. J. Horwitz, P. T. Klontz, and D. Tharp, “The Sentimental Savings Study: A Double-Blind, Randomized Control Experiment to Increase Personal Savings,” Journal of Financial Planning (October 2019).

      9 9. R. Kemnitz, B. T. Klontz, and K. L. Archuleta, “Financial Enmeshment: Untangling the Web,” Journal of Financial Therapy 6, no. 2 (2015): 32–48.

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