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Planning Your Marriage Service. Margaret Webber
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Автор произведения Margaret Webber
Жанр Зарубежная эзотерическая и религиозная литература
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B. Music
Nothing does more to set the feeling of joy at a wedding than the music. You will probably be asked to meet with the organist to discuss the music you would like to have. Before that meeting, you might want to think about the following possibilities:
1) Prelude. Usually the organist will begin to play fifteen minutes or more before the wedding. It is not necessary to choose this music (and perhaps only your guests will hear it!), but if you like good music, you may want to make suggestions of music for this time. Good choices will help set the tone for the day.
2) Entrance (and exit) music. The first and last note for your wedding is set by the processional music. It should be strong and joyful. The organist will generally offer several suggestions to you, including both very familiar pieces and lesser known ones. She or he can also tell you about the context and history of each piece to help you make your choice. That choice, With the others you will be making, enhances your statement to the congregation about what your marriage service means to you. And afterwards you will always be able to hear that music and be reminded not just of a wedding but of your wedding.
3) Hymns. There are several places in the service where hymns can be used. They need not be “wedding hymns” (these are usually too unfamiliar to work well anyway). The best choices are familiar hymns that express God's love for us and the joy With which we praise God. A list of suggested hymns follows.
4) Vocal or instrumental music. You may have friends who are talented musicians who would be willing to sing or play at your wedding. The church organist can also arrange for special music. Such music before or during the service can add a special note, but it should not be overdone. Soloists, whether they are very good or not, can draw attention away from the two being married and “dominate” the service. All such music needs to be arranged both with the priest conducting the service and With the organist.
Suggested Hymns for Use at a Wedding
| Number | First Line |
| 302 | Father, we thank thee† |
†These hymns are especially appropriate if there is a eucharist.
| 336 | Come with us, O blessed Jesus† |
| 377 | All people that on earth do dwell |
| 380 | From all that dwell below the skies |
| 390 | Praise to the Lord, the Almighty |
| 397 | Now thank we all our God |
| 401 | The God of Abraham praise |
| 410 | Praise, my soul, the King of heaven |
| 460 | Alleluia! sing to Jesus! |
| 487 | Come, my Way, my Truth, my Life |
| 488 | Be thou my vision |
| 516 | Come down, O Love divine |
| 517 | How lovely is thy dwelling place |
| 522 | Glorious things of thee are spoken |
| 645 | The King of love my shepherd is (*) |
| 657 | Love divine, all loves excelling |
| 663 | The Lord my God my shepherd is (*) |
| 671 | Amazing grace! how sweet the sound |
| 686 | Come, thou fount of every blessing |
| 697 | My God, accept my heart this day |
| 707 | Take my life, and let it be |
(*) These hymns are both paraphrases of Psalm 23, and could be used instead of reading a psalm.
C. The Entrance
Many weddings begin with the groom and best man standing at the front of the church while the bridal procession comes down the aisle, the bride coming last on her father's arm. This custom is based on very old ideas about the bride as property, brought in by one man and led out by another. You may want to use the “traditional” entrance procession, or you might like to consider alternatives which express your relationships more accurately.
1) The groom and best man come to the front of the church and wait for the bridal procession. The ushers, then the bridesmaids, then the bride come down the aisle. The bride is accompanied by her father or some other family member or friend. Flower girls and ring bearers may be included in the procession.
2) The bride and groom both come down the aisle in a procession which may be led by the priest and acolyte(s). Such a procession might begin with an acolyte or assistant carrying the cross, followed by the priest (and other clergy). Ushers follow them, and then the groom, accompanied by his parents and/or by the best man. Then the bridesmaids come, followed by the bride, accompanied by her parents and/or the maid of honor.
The second pattern is intended to express better the equality of the bride and groom and the support of their families.
3) There will be also very small or informal weddings at which the bride and groom will come down the aisle together, led by their witnesses and, perhaps, by acolytes and clergy.
D. The Presentation (optional)
1) A generation or two ago, it was customary for the bride's father to escort her down the aisle and stand between her and the groom through the opening statements. Then the priest said, “Who giveth this woman to be married to this man?” and the father gave the bride's hand to the priest, who gave it to the groom. Originally this represented the carrying out of a contract between families and even between tribes.
2) In a modern version, the priest would ask, “Who presents this woman to be married to this man?” The bride's father (or other presenter) would then respond, (2a) “I do,” or, (2b) “Her mother and I do.” The father would then usually give his daughter a kiss and step back to stand with his wife.
3) For a more complete expression of family support the priest might be asked to say, “Who presents this man and this woman to be married to each other?” The bride's escort would then say, (3a) “I do.” Alternatively, (3b) the parents or escorts of both bride and groom might respond together: “We present John and Mary to be married to each other.” Or, (3c) the parents or escorts of the bride and groom might respond separately: “We present John to be married to Mary,” and “We present Mary to be married to John.” If parents or others have come down the aisle with the bride and groom, they might stand at the front of the church until they have made this response and then step back to their places in the congregation.
4) Another common pattern is for the bride's escort to walk with her to the front of the church, give her a kiss, give her hand to the groom, and step back into the congregation to relax and enjoy the ceremony.
The first three variations would normally come after the opening statements. The fourth alternative would come before the opening statements are made.
E. The Ministry of the Word (p. 426)
This is the second major phase of the ceremony. The first stage consists of public statements of the meaning of marriage and your readiness to make the marriage commitment. Now, in the second stage, we hear the teaching of the Bible (and, perhaps, wisdom from other sources) concerning marriage. The choices you make here may take the most