The Most In Depth Self Discovery Book – Ever - Nishant Baxi

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First Two

      The reformers are the perfectionists of self, home and society. Their constant desire is to improve things, make things better because things always never seem good enough to them. Their attention to detail is impeccable – often finding fault and fixing even the smallest things.

      Highly principled and never compromising, they live by the book and follow all the rules – they even expect others to do so as well. They also tend to be ambitious and to a point, like a workaholic.

      These people are truly serious people whose pursuit for perfection is often a blessing and a vice to people around them.

      The Good

      The reformer’s holy idea of perfection is omnipresent. Their greatest desire is to create goodness, maintain impeccable integrity in their dealings and to balance the chaos around them.

      They are always the first to take the right action, standing up for what they believe in and acting upon it when others are meandering and compromising or lacking in courage, you can always count on a reformer to step up first and do what needs to be done.

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      They are also the best people when it comes to fixing things. You don’t have to do many things around the house because their delight is in fixing things, moving furniture, adding value and creating something different or better.

      The Bad

      Living with these people is like a personal hell. You don’t need to die to experience hell – all you need to do is to marry one or live in the same house with them as they constantly expect you to abide by the (or their) rules.

      They also have an ultra strong tendency to lean towards hypocrisy because no one is perfect even if they set the standards. Hypercriticism makes being around them unbearable at times because they will always find fault with others and fix them.

      Their most commonly displayed emotion is one of anger because nothing around them seems good enough to them – constantly resenting imperfection in things, circumstances or others.

      How To Deal With Them

      Because of their holy idea of perfection, their basic fear and tendency is to fall into sin/evil and become corrupt due to their own natural greed.

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      – self-preserving reformer must never be questioned about their personal reformative motives as they tend to keep to themselves about their grand plans for transforming the world. They do things quietly so the best way to deal with them is to acknowledge their efforts in little ways (they seldom show contentment or satisfaction)

      A sexual reformer is one that needs constant attention to their plans. You have to be patient as you listen to them because they want to change the world so badly but they got no one to share them with. They tend to be lonely when no one acknowledges their grand plans.

      A social reformer is one who often winds up like politicians and social activists. You have to put them with the right crowd for the wrong crowd will only reinforce their hypocrisy and turn the social reformer into a cult leader.

      They work very well with enthusiasts (type 7) who are often sold and excited about their plans for reformation and they hate being around individualists (type 4) who are self indulgent, often depressed and doesn’t get anything done.

      Helpers live to serve. As long as they feel that they are in contribution to others, they feel they are worthy. A being of selflessness, they believe that giving to others is their highest calling as they feel that love is the most important emotion in the world.

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      These are the warmest, most helpful people around who will never forget your birthday (or feel really guilty when they do so…) and will go the extra mile to help one in need.

      An extrovert in nature, they work hard to relate and show love to all their friends and family. They live for appreciation and often falls into the trap of tending to the needs of others at the neglect of their own which often causes a problem.

      The Good

      Helpers love the unbounded feeling of freedom which includes freedom of expressive their love to the world. An expressive being on unconditional love, they long to give and give and give until they can give no more.

      Helpers are highly altruistic – you can always count on them to sacrifice themselves for the good of others, often at their own expense.

      Being around them is good because they will always be there to fulfill your needs and feel their love.

      The Bad

      The problem with helpers is that they have a strong tendency to seek vainglory because of their love to help others. Because they feel that

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      being in contribution to others is their greatest calling, they will do whatever it takes, even to the point of manipulation in order to get people to acknowledge their helpfulness. They are prone to flattery.

      Some helpers, ironically… even though they are filled with love, can turn really ugly if their love is not reciprocated. They feel that they are heroes because of the loving and helping nature, they will constantly have a sense of entitlement to those closest to them – often feeling that people owe them appreciation and gratitude.

      When their emotional needs go unmet, they come really bossy and manipulative because they have earned their right for reciprocation. At the worst case scenario, they might become hysterical, unreasonable, very difficult to deal with and even abusive!

      How To Deal With Them

      The best thing a helper can do for themselves is to take care of their own needs even when they feel full on in helping others. As long as they are kept from burnout, they are less susceptible to emotional exhaustion and dryness. They often fear that they are unworthy for others to love them.

      A self preserving helper will help others and often refuse to tell others about their own needs. To help these people, you have to help them back behind the background otherwise they will feel that you are

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      intruding their self-worth without realize that they are running on an empty fuel tank.

      A sexual helper will need lots of love and care expressed visibly or visually. They must be acknowledged by their mates or they will malfunction. Be patient when listening to their meandering needs for acknowledgement and help them to help themselves and you’ll do fine.

      Social helpers are good in charitable organizations or counseling centers. Giving them good social projects is okay as long as the people they are serving give lots of encouragement and support. Take care of their needs when you see that they are serving too many people lest they feel burnt out with the huge burden or trying to please everyone.

      They work very well with individualists (type 7) who are often deeply complex and have many different needs (which helpers love to be around and help them) and they hate being around challengers (type 8) who threaten their comfort zones.

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      Chapter 3:

      The Achiever and The Individualist

      Synopsis

      Top achievers of the society, they live to achieve and achieve, they must!

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