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      Thank you to the Capstone team headed by Holly Bennion too. I appreciate that you want me to write the best book I can. Your support and candid, yet gently put, criticisms hopefully make my book all the better for readers.

      Thank you Steve Cuthbertson too. You more than anyone else have to put up with the up and down rollercoaster of my emotions. Your quiet resilience is like a force field that helps to keep the outside world at bay. Without it, I don't know how I would ever get much done.

      And final thanks must go to my parents: Stephen and Judy. You have always supported and encouraged me. You have allowed me to craft my own life and career for as long as I can remember. For this and so much else, you will always have my thanks and love.

      Introduction

      What is it that helps some people stand out? What helps certain individuals get picked out of the crowd – to attract attention and get noticed at work, at a party, in life?

      I’m not talking about metaphorical crowds either. How do people stand out when they are in a literal crowd, say a room full of people at a networking event all clamouring for attention?

      These were the kinds of questions I was looking to answer when I went to a networking breakfast one sunny but unexpectedly cold spring morning in west London. The venue: Lala Brasserie, a glass-fronted Mediterranean restaurant by a busy intersection. I’d been told by one of the organizers that the regular meeting began at 6.45 a.m. However, when I turned up exactly on time, I was confronted by the bustle and noise of a room thronged with scores of people already deep in conversation. It turned out that, such was the desire to get talking and do deals, most people turned up at 6.30 a.m. Being almost one of the last to arrive, I had some catching up to do.

      In quick succession, I met one person after the next. Marvin ran a company offering bookkeeping services. Zane was an employment lawyer. Serena, a designer of bespoke jewellery. There was Anastacia, who worked in foreign exchange. Thayne, an electrician. I met so many people that the names and faces began to blur.

      At around 7.15 a.m. came the opportunity for everyone to address the whole room. The chairperson of the meeting – a strong-featured Irish woman with her hair pulled away from her face in a business-like manner – called for our attention. In a strident voice, she invited us to tell the room individually what we did and what we were looking for. It was our opportunity to pitch ourselves.

      To keep the introductions moving swiftly, someone at the back of the room must have been sitting with a timer. A bell rang every 50 seconds – not even a full minute! – to keep people from hogging airtime.

      There was a financial adviser, a landscape gardener, a virtual personal assistant, the owner of a firm of commercial cleaners. Graphic and Web designers, a guy who did something with email, a physiotherapist, a commercial property expert.

      Twenty people had spoken but that wasn’t even half of the people in the room. I was trying my best to pay attention but most of it simply wasn’t sticking. Was Jacinta the therapist or was she something to do with charities? Who was the tall guy with curly grey hair and the glasses again? Yet still they came. More: an architect, several different kinds of lawyer, a telemarketer and a self-described “business growth engineer”. For the most part, I couldn’t keep track.

      Many spoke too quietly to be heard in front of the 50-strong audience. A few read from scraps of paper in monotone voices without looking at the increasingly bored faces around them. Yet a few stood out.

      A man with a lined face and a gravelly but sincere voice called Merik started with what the audience immediately realized were lyrics from a song: “I believe the children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.” He paused dramatically and then said, “You know the rest.”

      And of course we did. By quoting the opening lines to the well-known Whitney Houston song The Greatest Love, he had struck a chord with most of us and made himself instantly memorable.

      He went on to say that he believed that children are the future. And that children in schools needed clean windows to be able to see properly, concentrate properly, study properly. So he asked if anyone knew of any schools that needed their windows cleaning. It was a quirky, unusual pitch for his commercial window cleaning business. And for that reason it stood out like a lighthouse on a foggy night.

      Another of the small handful that stood out: Luke, a ballsy estate agent in his twenties – he looked and sounded like he could play the cheeky-but-lovable rogue on any British soap opera. He told the room how he had valued the houses of a couple of older women recently. He estimated that they could sell their houses for in excess of £1.2 million. But they had bought their houses years and years ago for around £8,000. The implication: on selling up, these women would become instant cash millionaires.

      Luke joked that he didn’t know if his insurance covered him should he give an elderly lady a heart attack and the throng laughed warmly for perhaps the first time that morning. Again, he managed to distinguish himself from the crowd.

      The science of standing out

      Think about some of the people you know who stand out. What is it that helps them get noticed? Is it that they speak slowly and forcefully – or perhaps quickly and with acerbic humour? Do they listen and make others feel like the centre of the universe? Or do they just radiate some kind of charm and good humour that draws others to them?

      We’re talking about star quality here. The reasons why one individual gets promoted again and again while others languish behind. The reasons why certain salespeople or small-business owners win new customers or clients seemingly without effort. The reasons why one person gets asked on date after date while others struggle to meet the right person.

      How To Stand Out is for anyone who wants to make an impact, to get noticed for professional or personal reasons. This book is for you if you’re a business owner hungry to sell more products and services – or maybe a freelance worker who needs to sell yourself. Perhaps you’re a fundraiser or campaigner who needs to get your directives across more robustly, a scientist seeking to communicate your findings or a policymaker seeking to change your community. Or you yearn to socialize more easily or even find love. Through word and deed, this book will help you to be more engaging, entertaining and persuasive. It will help you to stand out.

      Finding techniques that work

      So why do I want to write this book?

      Allow me to introduce myself by telling you what I said at that networking event back in the spring. Remember I had about 50 people watching me and I was allowed only 50 seconds. So I was speaking faster than I would normally do.

      I began by saying: “Hi, I’m Rob Yeung, an organizational psychologist, which means that I develop leaders and their teams to do their jobs better by running workshops on leadership, team effectiveness and particular skill topics. For example, I was working on Tuesday with a corporate sales manager and his team at a growing business.

      “They do most of their selling to their corporate clients face-to-face. So I was running the second of three workshops designed to help them to present better. To pitch, to get their messages across. To be more memorable and ultimately land more deals. At each session I present a few new principles then the team gets to practise by putting together and then delivering impromptu speeches.”

      On that day, I gave just one example of the kind of workshop I’ve run as an organizational psychologist. Actually, I describe myself as an organizational psychologist but you could equally call me a coach, a trainer, a corporate consultant, a keynote speaker, a lecturer. I train managers. I act as a sounding board to business owners. I speak at conferences all over the world to audiences of hundreds or even thousands of people. I lecture at universities and business schools. I work with charities that want to learn to raise funds more effectively. Ultimately, I teach people techniques that will

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