Finding Inner Safety - Dr. Nerina Ramlakhan

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      When I began my healing journey in 1999, the ancient sciences and philosophies started calling me. Maybe they'd whispered to me first and then I embarked on the journey without realizing I was being guided, woken up. By then I had my degrees, my left brain had been trained and honed by years of academic study and research but the Why's were clamouring for my attention and I needed to look beyond the reductionism of academic research to find more answers. My intuition was telling me that there was so much more to learn. I was feeling things, intuiting things, but unable to understand or trust what I was feeling. As Einstein said: ‘The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.’

      I have learnt so much over the years and amassed so many tools and resources. I always share these in my work as well as practising them myself. I share nothing that I don't practise myself – physician heal thyself. Many of the tools I'll share with you might seem like small things – how could they possibly make a difference? But there are times when we are tired, burnt out, and feeling at a loss and we don't have the energy to make big changes. I have found that these small changes are a good starting point and might even be the tipping point that can help to lever you out if you are stuck in a rut.

      Throughout Finding Inner Safety I invite you to think about yourself and how my words relate to you. The issue of feeling safe is a deeply personal one. How could I not ask you to consider your own thoughts, feelings, and experiences?

      Ironically, writing Finding Inner Safety took me on a deep journey of healing in which I realized that not only did I need to stop downplaying my own story, but I had something to share that could help others. I found a deep compassion – for myself and for my family and ancestors and the struggles they'd undergone. And I explored one of my most important Why's? Why am Ihere? According to Hindu and Buddhist philosophy, we are here for a reason, to fulfil a life purpose – this is called our dharma. I have long realized that in doing the work that I do I am fulfilling my dharma but I hadn't realized how much writing this book was a vital part of that life purpose. As I wrote, something settled in me and I found an even deeper sense of inner safety. This is what happens when we find our dharma and I have watched this happen with many others too.

      I trust that you find inspiration, hope, and energy to embark on your journey. Maybe the sharing of my story will help you to understand your own story, shed your own tears, and find your own liberation.

      My book is organized into four main parts, together with a Prologue, Introduction, and Epilogue. I start by telling a personal story that showed me, without doubt, why safety matters and where it really comes from.

      As I write this book, we are in the midst of a pandemic unlike anything any of us have ever been through. But even before this we had been living as compromised human beings, stress levels rising, mental health issues common, and, especially amongst our young, people are unable to sleep. But I believe that these aren't the real epidemics; at the heart of it we have become so disconnected from our true selves – our souls – and lost the ability to feel safe. In our technology-driven world we've also lost connection with others; for many people relating has become virtual, superficial, text-character-based. Man is, after all, a social animal, and it is in the building of authentic and deep connections that real safety can also be found.

      In the second part, I introduce you to the physiology of feeling safe, the nervous system and the vital role it plays in helping us to survive or thrive. I believe that understanding the workings of your nervous system is crucial to your being able to navigate safely in a world that often feels unsafe. I also describe an important and relatively new physiological theory that I myself stumbled upon only a few years ago while working on this book and a particularly painful stage of my own healing journey. Today, this theory and its practical application is becoming increasingly important in the understanding and treatment of trauma both at the clinical level and in everyday life.

      This part of the book is very dear to me. Initially, the scientist in me worried that what I was writing was whimsical and fluffy and that I'd be called a tree hugger! In order to write it, I needed to retreat into myself for a while. It was August 2021 and in London we hoped we'd come out of the pandemic. People weren't sure what to do with themselves; it felt as if the world was in a lull – a perfect time to be still and write about safety from a different perspective and one that even my ‘gurus’, neuroscientist Dr Stephen Porges and trauma therapist Deb Dana, hadn't written about – the healing potential of trees and their ability to show us how to feel safe. These respected professionals are considered by many to be amongst the top pioneers in the relatively new field of ‘safety science’.

      My gut or intuition was guiding me strongly here, driven by the question: What is the counterbalance to all of noise out there? The opinions and divisiveness in our world? The uncertainty that we're all facing at the moment? All of this serves to take us even further away from feelings of safety and surety. Can trees, just by virtue of how they exist and operate, demonstrate to us all what feeling safe really means? In this section of my book I show you that they truly can.

      In this third part, I write about the unexpected muse who turned up at the right time and helped me to deepen my understanding of the roots of our safety. Here I write about our relationship with nature – and trees in particular

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