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was finally put to a vote and everyone was in favor of moving—everyone, that is, except one lone holdout, an original member of the group. We asked him to voice his minority view, and while his reasons for staying put—he didn’t think bigger was always better and he like the ambience of the library—didn’t sway the group, he was very adamant about not moving. He said that if the group moved, he would no longer attend.

      Well, this really threw the group into a dither. Some felt it was emotional blackmail, while others calmly asked, “How important is this move right now, anyway?” and still more reminded us, “We should never be in a hurry in AA.” A second group conscience was taken and we voted to remain where we were until next month’s home group meeting.

      The next month’s home group meeting was a repetition of the first. We all voted to move except the holdout who again said that if we moved, he would no longer attend. We still had the dilemma of people hanging from the windows and stacked up like cordwood in the aisles of the library, but the group once again voted in favor of the individual member and decided not to move for another month.

      The third monthly home group meeting arrived and once again the move was the major topic. Once again the group voted to move the meeting. But—surprise!—the opposing member didn’t raise his hand against the motion. The group wanted to know if this member would still attend the meeting when it moved. The member said he didn’t know if he would attend but he could see there was a definite need to move and he no longer objected to the group conscience.

      So, after three months, we felt we had sufficient unity to make the move and we did so promptly; the former opposing member did attend meetings in the new hall. Over the years, KMS has grown in size, and now 60 to a 100 members meet Monday through Saturday.

      So, I learned firsthand that each AA member is a small part of a whole, and though every individual is important, he or she is not more important than the common welfare of the group.

      D. E.

      Wailuku, Hawaii

      TRADITION TWO

      For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

      The only power and authority to be found in AA stems from the group conscience.

      During our drinking, many of us rebelled against anybody trying to tell us what to do. Yet we discover in AA that there are no bosses, the Fellowship is both a democracy and, in the words of Bill W., “a benign anarchy”—a perfect combination for those of us who found it difficult taking orders.

      Once we sober up, and perhaps even attend a group business meeting or two, we begin to see that the group conscience can provide sure guidance without the weight of personalities and ego—that no AA can give another a directive and enforce obedience.

      “When one person wants the group or meeting to do it his (or her) way only,” writes Charlie W. in the story “Trusted Servants,” “that is when Tradition Two comes in, because it is the group conscience that should prevail.”

      When facing difficult issues with the potential of tearing a group apart—to smoke or not to smoke, having open or closed meetings, being involved in the service structure or not—reliance on a loving God as expressed through the group conscience has often provided direction. Says the author of “When They Kept It Simple,” “The principles of our program can bring me back from my self-centered opinions to a sincere consideration of what is best for AA, and therefore what is best for me.”

      February 2010

      Tradition Two helps us to sort out the always-tricky question: “Who is in charge?” After I came out of my alcoholic fog and looked around at the meetings, meeting rooms and members, I had a lot of questions. I needed to know who decided how meetings would be run, who the speakers would be and how the collection was spent. After attending meetings for a while, I noticed that there is quite a lot of menial labor required to keep the meetings running and the rooms open. Who does it and why? I’m sure I’m not the only one who came in with questions like these. But I was genuinely surprised as I learned the answers. AA is different from any other organization I’ve encountered. I’m as amazed today as I was then about how and why the Fellowship works.

      The short answer is that “group conscience” runs AA at every level. Yes, we have volunteers for different jobs. However, they have no authority to decide anything; they merely have the responsibility to carry out the decisions of the group, or the “group conscience.”

      It would seem that an organizational structure like this would produce only chaos. At times, it does, but eventually everything gets sorted out—not always the way any particular member wants it to.

      I saw this principle operating up front and personal in the first group that I joined. It was run by one individual who had been there for some years and made all the decisions about the group himself. Everyone else just wandered in and out. What happened was that when a serious problem faced the group, it fell apart. No one had enough interest to solve it. That group doesn’t exist today.

      When I attend business meetings today, the part of this Tradition that I try to remember is that it is a “loving” God expressed in our group conscience. Too often we are too human. I want to look smarter, more important or better informed; I want to see someone else put in his or her place; I want to squash what I think is a really stupid idea. Our business can and should be conducted in a loving way. I retain the gift of sobriety today.

      I am just here to serve, and by doing so, I retain the gift of sobriety.

      Nancy C.

      Coconut Grove, Florida

      February 2014

      One of my favorite AA jokes is: What’s the difference between a group conscience meeting and the Cub Scouts? The answer: The Cub Scouts have adult supervision! Another is: What’s the biggest problem with a group business meeting? Answer: It’s run by a bunch of drunks!

      It was pointed out to me many years ago by an old-timer that the key word in Tradition Two is “may.” “… there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.”

      Being taught early on that service to my home group is an obligation, not an option, I have been involved in business meetings almost from the beginning. But it hasn’t always been an easy road for me to trudge.

      What’s always amazed me is that in most cases, we can be diametrically opposed on an issue, express those opinions during a business meeting, then hold hands and pray and exchange hugs afterward. That’s been the case in almost every issue I’ve experienced, with one major exception: I had to watch my first home group die due to a break in this and other Traditions.

      At that business meeting a well-respected old-timer found it necessary to attack another member. He felt she was abusing her use of the key to the meeting room by taking advantage of the air conditioning during the hot Texas summer. Rather than resolve the issue one-on-one, he chose to demand that something be done. The “discussion” turned quite ugly. What happened after that was painful.

      Our group, which often had 30 to 40 members, split in two. Quite quickly, our group, which had a reputation in the area as one of the strongest around, imploded. People resigned offices and began attending other groups. Attendance went down and it began to become harder and harder to pay the bills. In a matter of months, the decision became very clear—it was time to close the doors. A group that had been so attractive to me when I first walked through the doors of AA, was gone. Locking the door for the last time was

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